Archive for September, 2009

Orphanage Update – May 2009

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , on September 30, 2009 by J-HY

From time to time we get general physical/social development updates regarding Naomi from our orphanage.  Below is the last one we got in May.  I am going to start posting these on our blog when we receive them.

May 2009

Height: 35.5 inches

Weight: 29 pounds

This little kiss-able cutie pie loves to sing ALL THE TIME and talks nonstop. She loves to play with blocks, run, swing, and jump on the trampoline. She is always very happy and has the most fun little giggle when tickled or bounced especially high on the trampoline.

Naomi continues to be a sweet and happy little girl. She is engaged with her world and those within it, smiling and laughing. She is not afraid of strangers, but she is appropriately cautious around them. She enjoys attending church and is even part of children’s church where she is well-behaved. Naomi is rarely angry, unkind or disobedient.

Naomi has full control of her bladder and bowels, rarely having an accident. This includes nap and nighttime as well. While she is not excited about laying quietly at nap time, she does sleep everyday.

During our morning play stations Naomi especially enjoys the reading and block stations.  She likes to watch the other children and nannies play with the puzzles and play dough. She is starting to be bolder about experimenting with the play dough herself. When Naomi has free play she enjoys playing with her dolls, last week I found her in the playroom bathing her baby in the sink of the little kitchen. It was beautiful! Will try to catch her again when I have my camera.

Naomi is a good eater, who is always willing to try new food. While she eats her Haitian dinners, she prefers her American lunch. She loves milk, bananas, cookies and mangoes.  Naomi enjoys her baths.

We continue to struggle with Naomi’s skin. She has been treated for scabies and has been given antibiotics as well as creams, but it has not cleared up. All of the children were treated for malaria three weeks ago, and are on a weekly preventive medicine to avoid malaria. Naomi continues to be healthy.

We are currently working through the resurrection eggs with the children at night. They are listening and we are praying that we are planting seeds in their little hearts. We will follow up with an Easter egg hunt on Easter weekend.

I do not have any concerns about Naomi at this time. She is growing and developing well and we thoroughly enjoy her.


Daddy make it better

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on September 27, 2009 by J-HY

Said our goodbyes to Naomi tonight….lots of tears from everyone except Naomi. She could tell something was up and started distancing herself from us….almost like she was mad at us. Self preservation/survival instincts are an amazing thing. We all held our tears until we walked out the door, then Claire lost it, she was crushed, and then reality hit me hard. Sarah somehow held it together and I did too until we started to pray as a family…then I felt just like Claire….crushed and looking to my Daddy to make everything make sense, make it better, make it perfect….because it seemed like my world was crashing in. My Daddy didn’t have the answers I wanted to hear just like I didn’t for Claire. But He was there to listen and remind me that better days are yet to come….that’s all that I could pass on to my daughter as well.

Good times – Time flies. Tough times – Time stands still. Tis the journey that we walk. But I can assure you, God is good and I am grateful for the adventure. Grateful for the chance to live by faith so recklessly that I get to see His miracles played out in my life.

PS. More cheerful updates with pics of Naomi will be coming soon once we return to the states tomorrow. She is beautiful and our time with her was amazing! Still to come…..stories about running out of video camera tape and filling up my camera memory card (and finding out I couldn’t empty it onto my computer) all on the first day…..good times.

Carry-on Luggage

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , on September 25, 2009 by J-HY

My thought, “I bet she would fit in a large backpack….I wonder what that would look like on the security monitor?”

Naomi’s thought, “I sure hope he doesn’t think I can fit in a backpack….Momma help!”

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Haiti Bound

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , on September 22, 2009 by J-HY

Just a quick update and to complete the loop on my last post….we leave for Haiti tomorrow to go visit Naomi.  For “we”, insert Sarah, Claire, and me.  Isabella is staying behind…however, “we” are regretting that we didn’t plan for her to come along on this trip as well.

We still don’t know the “right” answer for sure.  What we “know” is that we “feel” like we should be there for Naomi’s birthday (turning 3 on Saturday), loving her as only we can.

What we “feel” challenged to do is live out our faith in His calling to adopt in a very real, public testimony way….by going.  To put our hearts, our safety, our comfort…on the alter just as Abraham did with Isaac.  To learn by the testing of  our faith that God is good.  For “our”, insert Sarah, Claire, Isabella, and me.

Not by sitting back, safely inside, quietly pursuing His calling, not getting to attached, praying that things will “work out”, and if they don’t, oh well, wasn’t God’s will, we must not have understood His call, it’s a good thing we didn’t put ourselves out there because we would have been disappointed, gotten hurt, lost so much.

So….98 degree heat, no AC, no electricity, no hot water, malaria carrying mosquitoes, and all things 3rd world uncomfort……stand aside because we are coming to throw a P.A.R.T.Y!

Adoption Reality

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , on September 21, 2009 by J-HY

I asked Sarah if I could share a recent email dialog she had with one of our adoption advocates in Haiti.  Our adoption isn’t easy.  Walking by faith is a daily battle of wills; ours versus His.  Here is a small glimpse into our adoption reality…..

– from Sarah –

“I need some counsel this morning.  As if you don’t have enough to do already.  I just knew that you would understand and maybe could help me.  Please do not take any of this the wrong way.

I am really struggling with coming to see Naomi.  Our adoption at the moment, as you well know, is not moving too much.  Well not at all really.  And I just can’t figure out or seem to have a peace about our visiting Naomi with there being so much uncertainty about when the adoption will begin to be in process.  Please know, I am not doubting this adoption.  I have complete faith that this is going to be an amazing miracle of God.  I just want to do what is best for her.  And I guess I am just trying to figure out if visiting her and leaving her so often when the adoption has not even begun, is right.  Is any of this making sense?  I literally have been physically ill to my stomach worrying about this.  I love her so much and just want to do the right thing.

Can you please just be very honest with me?  You know Naomi so well, being with her everyday.  I only want to do what is best for her.

Thank you for “listening”.  You have no idea how much we appreciate what you do. Please give Naomi huge hug from me! Tell her we love her!”

– from adoption advocate –

“My heart just aches for you – and your family.   Please know how very much I love your ‘mother’s heart’!

It is interesting that you should email now.  I have been watching Naomi quite a bit recently, thinking what a GOOD thing it is that you are coming.  She has been struggling a bit.  A bit moodier, a little less inclined to obey, and I have thought how grateful I am that you will soon be here.

In my opinion, she needs that intense one-on-one “I love you MORE than anyone else in this world!” time that she gets from you.  She needs that settled feeling of knowing that she is valued.  As I have watched her behavior after your earlier visits, I have seen how it has truly impacted her in positive ways.  She is happier, more joyful, more energetic, and so content.

I really struggle with knowing what is right here – she will come to my house by herself or with (other orphan) two to three times each week.  It’s kind of like coming to grandma’s house – they get different snacks, and have a bit more freedom in terms of play time – sometimes they get to watch a video.  But when she has to go back to the girl’s house she is so sad.  She and (my child) are just six weeks apart in age, and so I think she has trouble understanding why (my child) gets to stay and she has to go.  What I’m trying to say is this – she knows that I love her, but she also knows that it is different with (my child).

When you are here – it’s all about Naomi – and she knows it.  That has been powerful in her life.   If you’re in this for the long haul (which you’ve never given me any reason to believe that you are not) I would try to budget in trips to see her every 3 to 4 months.

Just want you to know that I understand what you’re asking – I really appreciate your sensitivity to Naomi and the entire situation – and I want to do what I can to help your family to survive these upcoming months and years well!  If, after prayer and quiet reflection with our Lord, you decide that it is not best to come at this time – I will completely support that decision – and will welcome any ideas that you may have for keeping your connection with Naomi during this time of waiting.”

– from Jason –

If you have walked this road before and have received wise counsel on how to handle this….please share. Public or Private.  If you are a counselor, pastor, child psychologist, or social/adoption worker with insight….please share.  Public or Private.  This is shaky ground for us, we don’t have it figured out, we don’t have the “right” answers, we need help.  If you haven’t walked this road, we would love to have your encouragement/prayer.  Public or Private.  But, respectfully, keep your “opinions” regarding whether you think  we should or shouldn’t be visiting our daughter at this stage to yourself….love ya, mean it.

Square Between the Eyes

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , on September 16, 2009 by J-HY

That is where this hit me today….pulled from C.S.Lewis – Mere Christianity:

“One more point and I am done.  In the passage where the New Testament says that every one must work, it gives as a reason “in order that he may have something to give to those in need.”  Charity-giving to the poor-is an essential part of Christian morality: in the frightening parable of the sheep and the goats it seems to be the point on which everything turns.  Some people nowadays say that charity ought to be unnecessary and that instead of giving to the poor we ought to be producing a society in which there were no poor to  give to.  They may be quite right in saying that we ought to produce that kind of society.  But if anyone thinks that, as a consequence, you can stop giving in the meantime, then he has parted company with all Christian morality.  I do not believe one can  settle how much we ought to give.  I am afraid the only safe rule is to give more than we can spare.  In other words, if our expenditure on comforts, luxuries, amusements, etc, is up to the standard common among those with the same income as our own, we are probably giving away too little.  If our charities do not at all pinch or hamper us, I should say they are too small.  There ought to be things we should like to do and cannot do because our charitable  expenditure excludes them.  I am speaking now of “charities” in the common way.  Particular cases of distress among your own relatives, friends, neighbors or employees, which God, as it were, forces upon your notice, may demand much more: even to the crippling and endangering of  your own position.  For many of us the great obstacle to charity lies not in our luxurious living or desire for more money, but in our fear – fear of insecurity.  This must often be recognized as a temptation.  Sometimes our pride also hinders our charity; we are tempted to spend more than we ought on the showy forms of generosity (tipping, hospitality) and less than we ought on those who really need our help.”